I can’t imagine pain being used to make me a better person. I like getting whacked for the sheer pleasure of it.
Spankings: punishment / behavior modification or just for fun?
Originally posted 2008-12-27 09:30:55.
Punishment or Pleasure?
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Should a woman inspire fear in a man?
Originally posted 2010-03-06 13:28:32.
Men Should Fear Women
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(This was left as a comment on another entry by someone signing himself “beautiful.”
Printing someone’s opinions does not imply my endorsement.)
In defense of the hearts of dominant females everywhere, I as a true male submissive have a few things to say to those who are only playing silly sex games.
More, and more I hear people talking about FLR, LFA, DD, D/s, F/m spanking, FemDom, and simular lifestyles. To introduce myself, my wife re-named me “beautiful” eight years ago. My wife runs the household, I do what I am told to do. My Mistress respects me, and treats me well though, she will punish me when she feels that something I have done is deserving of punishment. Our D/s relationship is not a sex game, it does not exist to fulfill my fantasies, and I do not want it to. I want to please her, to serve her, to pamper, and cherish her, I did not ask my wife to dominate me so that I could then “top from the bottom.”
I see the blogs all over the web written by guys saying they desire to be dominated by a female. Actually, at times these really touch a nerve with me. Why? Well, what most of these guys want isn’t to serve a dominant lady. These guys are mostly living in the realm of daydreams fantasizing about being spanked by a beautiful woman. The thing is, they look at a spanking as only a foreplay scenario. they dream of leather clad vixens with whips, they feed into the imagry of BDSM, and the allure of the unknown. These are such ordinary fantasies. Have these males ever taken the time to understand the needs of the lady they fantasize about being dominated by? Come out of your fantasy world, and wake up to the realities of what it truly means to serve a dominant woman. How are your cooking skills guys? I can chef up whatever my lady desires whenever she may desire it. She needs feminine items, guess who gets to go to the store? I’ve become an expert at massage. Why? To please my Mistress. Did she have to order me to study massage? No, I studied the art so that I could better please her. Most of the supposed male subbie blogs I read aren’t written from a submissive standpoint, they just get turned on by the thought of it. There is quite a wake-up call in store for some of these gentlemen. You fantasize about being whipped, about being disciplined by a dominant lady but, have you ever truly been whipped? I mean, as a true punishment, not for sexual foreplay? Guess what guys? It hurts to be whipped, it’s supposed to. Are you a submissive male? Is there such an animal? By nature, no, I am not submissive, in fact, I am a go-getter, make-it-happen kind of a guy. Beautiful, confident woman ALWAYS made me feel submissive, never guys, no way, I am not a weak person. Only 1 lady dominates me. She is exceptional in every way. She dominates me not with her clothes, and her whips but, because she is the most exceptional woman I have ever met in my life. She is gorgeous in every way, inside, and out. I love her. She loves me. My wife is never “mean” to me. Our life isn’t a constant stream of punishments, that happens you DON’T GET IT GUYS!
Before any of you guys write another blog about your fantasies, why don’t you consider the fact that what you believe that you desire, may not be very desirable to you at all. A life spent wanking off to the imagry of your fantasy world IS NOT serving a female dominant! It is serving yourself! It is delusion. You are no slave, you want a slave, face it, the truth is always the truth. You want what you want, and that is in no way being submissive to your lady guys, get your facts straight.
Have you ever served corner time? Do you dream about such things? I hope not. You do not really want to stand in the corner, you shouldn’t anyway. Why would you want to displease your Mistress? You want her to strap you until your tears are silent cries, and your bottom is blistered, and bruised? Oh, you want to piss her off do you do you? No, you’ve never lived in a FLR or anything of the sort, you are fueling your desires, and your lady is not running your life, you are controlling hers. Have any of you guys ever had your bottom blistered, truly blistered until it is so stiff, and painful when you try to sit down that you almost want to cry? Think about the realities of a FLR before you get yourself into something you’ll wish you’d never dreamed about. I do not seek punishment, I seek the opposite, I seek my Mistress’ pleasure, whatever that may be, whenever that may be. When she punishes me, it has the effect of making me reflect on my wrong doings. I become very displeased with myself. There are times when I feel that my crime deserves a much more severe punishment than my Mistress has sentenced me to however, I NEVER speak one word, this is not mine to decide. My lot is to accept whatever she gives me. We have no “safe word” and we do not need one. My submission to my wife is not a game. My punishments when they occurr are not for my enjoyment, and I have absolutely no control over how, why, or when I am punished. I trust my wife with my heart. I know that she loves me, she will not give me anything I do not deserve. I couldn’t be happy living in such a false, fantasy senario. Sometimes a punishment whipping hurts so much that all I want is for it to stop but, I would never consider using a safe word even if, we had one. A “safe word” is not something that is in concert with my wife holding all of the power as far as I am concerned. If she ever offered me such control, I would happily refuse to ever use it, and I would state this openly to my Mistress. How can I ask my wife to discipine me when I am left in control of how severly she can punish me? Should a submissive husband decide how many lashes his Mistress will punish him with? Would this be true punishment or, the enactment of my fantasies? I have no desire to become an actor. If that’s what you want guys, go see a pro dom, and get your rocks off but, before you start dreaming about life in a FLR do some research into yourself. Are you merely fantasizing? You’d better be certain you aren’t before you start searching for a dominant female partner. If you have the guts to speak your desires to a female that’s a great start but, do yourselves a favor guys, leave what your desire may be out of the converstaion. You want to live in a FLR? Then realize this right now! If you are a submissive, this IS NOT ABOUT YOUR WANTS IT’S ABOUT HERS. Punishments are for not getting the program, they are not administered for your sexual release. Punishment is not supposed
to be something you want. Being punished should make you feel disappointed in yourself, it should drive you to better serve, and please your Mistress. It’s either all about her or, you are simply dreaming, and living a lie.
These rules were written by a male. These “rules” are all about his fantasy, not hers.
10. Request punishment when you deserve it and willingly submit to all punishments that I apply.
Request punishment when you deserve it? Requesting punishment in itself lets me know that this isn’t a list a female dominant might come up with. Certainly, if I transgress, I will openly admit my failure to my Mistress. Requesting punishment would IMHO be topping from the bottom. Who am I to say I deserve punishment? I am the subordinate here, that is not up to me. By the rules, I may deserve to be punished but, it is not mine to have any say in tis matter. My responsibility ends with letting my Mistress know that I have done something for which I am ashamed. I know when I have broken a rule. I am responsible to let my wife know when I step over one of her lines without her knowledge. What I am not permitted to do is decide the penalty she will impose upon me. Here, have another rule…You’ll only need this one rule if you are serious.
1. Stop talking about being submissive, and act that way.
Funny, look at all of the supposed subs who say things like “If my needs aren’t met blah blah blah. Needs are not wants, and wants are in no way needs. Forget your wants. We all have basic needss, food, shelter, etc, we aren’t talkig about needs here, not for submissives anyway, or are we? Are you submissive? Or do you only wish that you were?
I’ve lived this for eight years now. Our D/s relationship has taken time to blossom into the flower that it is. I am sorry guys if, this comes off as judgmental however, if you ever have any hopes of sharing happiness with a dominant woman, put her wants, and needs before your own. All of my needs are always met, I am well cared for. My wants? I have only one that matters. I want to please her. Other than this, I defer my wants to my Mistress’ discreation. You can’t imagine life like this? You are not submissive, you may be a masocist, you may revel in pain but, you are not submissive. You desire pain, and you find ways to get what you want. This isn’t the actions of a submissive male, they are the actioins of a person who knows what they want, and knows how to get it. Sounds very dominant to these ears.
I absolutely cherish my wife, and she cherishes me. Our marriage is happier than that of any couple either of us knows. Funny, everyone always asks what our secret is. This makes us feel incredible! Yeah, we have a secret, and we aren’t sharing it with anyone. You either get it or you do not. Life within only a fantasy is the definition of misery. Be happy, tell the truth, live the truth, there is no other way to find happiness. Happiness is either within both of you or, it simply is not. You want to be punished? Thenou don’t get it, not a FLR, you only think that you do.
You will die wanting if, you are fooling yourself. I live to please my lady. We have the relationship that I see tons of people wishing that they could find. Would you like to find treasure like this one day? Begin with honesty, end with honesty. The rest will come. Be honest with yourself before you involve another person in something that is 180 degrees out of polarity with reality. Do not play with anyone’s heart. Before you make it real, you’d do well to be completely honest with yourself first because, if you are not, then you are playing games with someone elses heart. Do not ask for what you are not prepared to fully receive.
Rules? You want to live underneath of her rules or your own?
Decide before you make some lady invests her heart into you without knowing who is really running the show. Don’t go find some lonely woman, and program her to be your dominant female robot. This will only end in utter sadness. You desire a relationship with a dominant female? Know this then, in a FLR relationship there is only one dominant. Get used to the idea or, maybe you could go find a new video game to play. Just for the record. There aren’t many of the guys whose blogs I’ve seen who really get it. Sorry, but, the truth is the truth, is the truth, and it always will be. How about you begin here. Consider what you are doing when you lead a lady to believe that you are something that you are not. Don’t play games with people’s hearts. You may never get what you desire, and this should be fine with you if you are a slave. Accept this, it’s your place as a slave to do so. You cannot accept this? Ask no woman to allow you to be her slave because, a slave you are not. You cannot give what you do not have. Submission is a gift. If you aren’t submissive you have no submission to give to anyone.
Our D/s Relationship is Not a Sex Game
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Do you feel that men exist solely for utilitarian purposes? That women should feel free to treat men as if they were, say, furniture?
Originally posted 2010-03-06 20:32:26.
Men Are For Use
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Slave Collars: Symbol of Power Exchange
(Suggestions on selecting collars. I don’t remember where I got this.)
Now, regarding collars my favorite is that kind of training collar that have those spikes that are intended to dig into the neck of the poor unfortunate dog. But I modify it heavily, as I don’t find the original design to be that conductive for Safe bdsm play. Consequently, I modify heavily: First of all, I remove the choking part. This makes the rest of the collar too small, so you will need additional links (eg by buying an additional collar and cannibalizing this for parts).
Secondly, I cut the choking part up to free the attachment for the leash. This is then put added to one of the spiked links.
Third, I turn the collar inside out in order to get the spikes on the outside. The resulting look is in my opinion rather stunning. By inserting and removing links, you can get it as tight or loose as you want it. Do experiment.
Now, from the choking part you can get a short piece of chain with a ring in the middle. This can form the center piece of another collar: Buy an additional length of plain chain with a ring at both ends. Cut this in two halves. Join the the resulting three pieces together with small key rings.
You wear this collar thus: Wrap it twice around the neck of the sub, and pass a very heavy padlock through all three rings. The reason for passing the padlock through all the rings is that you eliminate the possibility for a choking effect in this way.
A note on the padlock: get one of the kind that has the key-hole on the front face. I find these to be the most visually stimulating.
A note on plating:
You can get these things both nickel and chrome plated. Many people have problems wit nickel allergy, thus I alway buy mi toys chrome plated. You can distinguish the th two from each other by the look: the chrome plated kind is more reflective / luster (which is another good reason to buy this variety).
What do you think about women placing collars on the necks of their submissive men and male slaves?
Do you think it an attractive sign of a man’s status as the property of a woman?
A nice token of submission?
Ostentatious or tacky?
Too obvious? Too weird?
Collars for Submissive Men
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When I saw this illustration I couldn’t help but think of Train Male Children to Be Submissive.
Originally posted 2011-03-08 15:00:50.
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The Dominatrix Bitch Stereotype
don’t think there’s anything incongruous about being nice/fair/laid back and being domly. I don’t think it’s necessary to be bossy or bitchy. It’s fine if that’s how one is or how one likes to play, but if that’s not how one is (or likes to play) I don’t see any reason to put that persona on.
Bitchy just isn’t my style (which is not to say I don’t get bitchy, it’s just not a scene or d/s dynamic I enjoy – it’s the “bad day at work” kind of bitchy). In my first domly experiences I thought bitchy/cruel/demanding was what doms were, and I tried to be that, but it just made me uncomfortable. I’m generally pretty laid back. I found out pretty early on that fellows who like to be forced or who had a “cruel dominatrix” kink were not good matches for me. It did shake my nearly-nonexistent confidence in my domliness that so many fellows I met had this kink, and I just wasn’t comfortable going there. Thing was, if I was with a guy who wanted me to be the bitch-dom or who wanted me to force him to submit, my desire to be domly with that guy just evaporated. I started seriously questioning whether I was domly at all. It felt right in my head, but it sure wasn’t working out that way in actual practice.
Along the way I met some fellows who did not have the kink for force or “cruel dom”, and things started to gel. I discovered that there were fellows out there who responded well to my style, and that willing (even enthusiastic) submission pushed all the right buttons for me, and with these guys I was very domly indeed.
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IMHO, seeming dour, supercilious or bitchy isn’t better. For the record, in my experience dominants who act like domineering assholes don’t represent what enlightened dominant men and women aspire to be. Most of the dominant women and men that I’ve seen at play parties or at the conventions, etc. seem to all be trying to be nice, like I am. They reserve their bully behavior for private scenes in the dungeon, as do I.
I do not let myself get pushed around. I’m fully capable of taking command, and I often do it with a smile on my face. That’s my style. I like to play with people who like my style, so I act like myself instead of some stupid porno stereotype. This way, if they don’t like my style, they know right away to stay the hell out of my life. 
I’m not a bully, I’m not a whore, I’m not Xena, and I’m not royalty on holiday. Acting like any of these feels very phony to me and I won’t be doing it. Besides, it’s not necessary to ever be posturing. Plenty of tops never do it and they get along just fine.
There are lots of subs who seem to think a dominant should act bossy all the time to be believable, but they’re clueless. Don’t let ignorant subs pressure you into playacting for them. If you want to be theatrical because that comes natural for you, then that’s different. I get theatrical when I play, but I certainly don’t live that way.
(From an old Usenet discussion)
Originally posted 2011-01-28 11:34:43.
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Standard Positions for the Obedient Submissive Male
GREET. This would be the most common of positions and usually non verbal. Toy would meet You as You enter and kneel before You with knees outstretched kissing Your feet and removing Your shoes if applicable. The variation on this is if Mistress and slave have just entered toys abode from outside toy would then (as soon as Mistress moves off) be expected to strip and put on the cuffs and offer himself to Mistress in the WAIT position.
SERVE. The only way to serve something to Mistress. Toy kneels before You with knees wide and offering the item with arms extended and the head and eyes lowered until You take it.
CRAWL. On hearing this command this slave drops to his knees and crawls to You, kissing Your feet then lowering this slaves head to the floor between Your feet wiating for Your next command.
PRESENT. There are two versions of this from the one command. If this slave is standing when it is spoken, toy is to immediately stand with legs apart and with hands clasped behind the head, Thus exposing him for Mistresses inspection/use. When slave is kneeling slave is to lean back on the heels and again clasp hands behind the head. In both instances toys back is to be straight, head erect and eyes downcast and remaining that way until released.
WAIT. This is a position where slaves kneels in front of Mistress with knees widely spread resting oh heels with back straight. Toys head is erect with eyes downcast but the hands rest upon the thighs palms up.
WORSHIP. This position is used when slave wishes to show Mistress the subservience She deserves. Toy kneels with the knees spread but lowers the head to the floor. Arms are widely spread and toys palms are on the floor.
FURNITURE. On hearing this command toy will kneel on all fours with head down. Ideal for when Mistress needs a seat for a phone call or a foot rest etc.
INSPECT. At this command toy will spread the legs slightly and reach down to clasp the ankles with head lowered. This will expose toy for Mistresses inspection/punishment.
EXPOSE. Upon hearing this toy will lay the floor with the back flat to it and bring the heels close to the butt pulling on the ankles with the hands which will the legs to be spread widely. This will make toy completely helpless and vulnerable to Mistress.
UP. this is used when toy is serving Mistress sexually. On hearing the command toy is to rise on knees facing Mistress and enter Her, moving as She directs for Her pleasure. Mistress may raise Her feet to Her slaves face at which point toy is to lick and worship Her feet, usually the soles.
ADORE. Slave is to sit at Mistresses feet and massage, lick and kiss every inch of Her feet up to Her ankles. Toy may use hands to massage and hold Mistresses feet.
Ritual Positions of Male Submission
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Doesn’t this strike you as about the silliest advice ever?
Originally posted 2008-05-06 14:07:15.
Cross Your Legs Like a Woman
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Male Slave Conduct Contract Regulations*
By Mistress Thionite
[1]Male Slaves are considered as the lowest form of life on this planet. Every
other living thing has a higher rank than that of Male Slave. A Male Slave’s Mistress
may use his Male Slave for any purpose, including, but not limited to, household
duties, sexual gratification, and being loaned out to others for the
exchange of money. There are two types of Male Slaves, Full-Time Male Slaves, and
SessionMale Slaves. Some rules differ for each type, and are described as such
when necessary. When no distinction between Male Slave types is given, the Rule
applies to both types. Full-Time Male Slaves are exactly as the title suggests,
full time. These types are used in household duties, and are under
constant supervision by a Mistress. Session Male Slaves are those who only
occasionally enjoy the sexual aspect of the Mistress/Male Slave life.
[2] Absolute obedience of each of these 35 rules is required. Failure to
comply with any of these rules will result in 25 lashes with the cat-o-nine
tails, belt or cane, for each offense.
[3] Male Slave is not permitted to use pronouns that refer to it as a person.
Only “Male Slave”, and “it”, or something else that shows no personal identity.
[4] Male Slave will not speak unless spoken to by Mistress or any of Mistress’s
associates, except in case of an emergency such as fire, drowning, or other
such event that would require instant help.
[5] Full-Time Male Slave is responsible for keeping its body devoid of hair,
except eyebrows and on the top of its head, either by shaving, waxing or
hair-removal gels/lotions. This will be done with complete supervision by
Mistress. Session Male Slave may be required to arrive at its appointment
completely hairless. This is at the discretion of Mistress.
[6] Full-Time Male Slave is to be naked at all times. Session Male Slave is to be
naked when it arrives for its appointment. The appointment is considered
to have started and/or ended the moment Male Slave steps over Mistress’s
threshold.
[7] Full-Time Male Slave is forbidden to touch its genitals, or ass, except in
accordance of Rules 5, 13 & 14. Session Male Slave is forbidden from touching
its genitals at any time during an appointment.
[8] Immediately upon agreement of becoming Full-Time Male Slave, it agrees to
surrender its payment for the privilege of becoming Mistress’s Male Slave, in the
form of all liquidated bank assets. Male Slave must also forfeit any previous
employment. Male Slave’s immediate family must be notified of Male Slave’s free will
to go into servitude. In return, Mistress agrees to keep in touch with
Male Slave’s family, in the event of family sickness or death. Session Male Slave is
required to surrender its payment for the privilege of becoming Mistress’s
Male Slave at the rate of $50 per hour. Appointments generally do not last more
than one day, unless previously agreed upon by both parties.
[9] Full-Time Male Slave is not permitted to leave Mistress’s residence, for any
reason except for emergency purposes.
[10] Male Slave is not permitted to use any seating other than the floor.
[11] Male Slave is not permitted to use any appliances, electronic devices or
other household items, unless otherwise ordered. These items include, but
are not limited to, stove, refrigerator, microwave, washer/dryer,
television, cell phone, radio, computer, etc.
[12] Male Slave has no privacy.
[13] Full-Time Male Slave will give itself a daily enema while under its
Mistress’s supervision. This will serve as Male Slave’s allotted daily
defecation. Session Male Slave is required to arrive at its appointment,
completely cleaned out.
[14] Full-Time Male Slave is granted permission to relieve its bladder three
times daily, at 8 am, 4 pm and Midnight, provided Mistress is awake. If
Mistress is not awake, or Male Slave is not being used as described in Rule 15, no
bathroom relief shall be granted. Session Male Slave will not be permitted to
relieve any bodily functions during an appointment.
[15] When Full-Time Male Slave is in use, Male Slave must remain within 3 feet of its
Mistress’s side, at all times. “In Use” is considered to be anytime Mistress
is home and awake. Session Male Slave must remain in sight at all times.
[16] When not in use, Full-Time Male Slave will reside in its cage, where its
arms and legs will be shackled, and tethered by its balls with a rope or
chain.
[17] Full-Time Male Slave will be displayed as such when Mistress receives guests.
No effort shall be made by Male Slave to cover up or hide its lowly status from
others. Male Slave is required to undertake all hostess duties, and provide
enough food to satisfy two servings, per person, per each dish made. Male Slave
will also provide all refreshments, and offer its mouth as an ashtray for
those guests who smoke.
[18] Male Slave shall regularly be tested for Obedience, to ensure proper
compliance.
[19] All orders given to Male Slave must be obeyed immediately, without
question, and without hesitation.
[20] Male Slave shall assume any position when commanded. Positions are as
follows: (A) “Inspect”- Male Slave will stand, legs spread apart to its
shoulder-width, hands clasped tightly behind its head. (B) “Present”-
Male Slave will stand, legs together, hands clasped tightly behind its back.
(C) “Kneel”- Male Slave will drop to floor on its knees, legs spread apart to
its shoulder-width, hands clasped tightly behind its head. (D) “Lay”-
Male Slave will drop to its stomach, legs spread as wide apart as possible,
hands clasped tightly behind its head, elbows touching the ground. (E)
“Wall”- Male Slave will stand against nearest wall, hands clasped tightly behind
its head, and arch its body out as far as possible so that only its elbows
and heels are touching anything solid. (F) “Relax”- Male Slave will drop
facedown to the floor, then raise itself off the floor and arch its back as
high as possible, with only fingertips [not entire hands!] and tips of toes
touching the floor.
[21] When Male Slave is not being commanded, it will sit on the floor, hands
wrapped around Mistress’s ankles.
[22] Full-Time Male Slave will be locked into a chastity device at all times,
and permitted to cum only as Mistress sees fit. SessionMale Slaves may or may
not be kept in a chastity device, dependent upon Mistress’s desire. Male Slave
will be frequently edged toward cumming, but not be permitted to do so.
If, during an edging session Male Slave “accidentally” cums without permission,
it will receive an additional 10 lashes.
[23] Male Slave is required to have a butt plug in its anal cavity at all times.
[24] If Male Slave must relieve any bodily functions other than allotted times,
it must ask permission. If permission is asked, Male Slave will be punished for
breaking Rule 4 and receive an additional 25 lashes. Permission may or may
not be granted, dependent upon present activities and/or Mistress’s mood.
[25] When there is more than one Full-Time Male Slave in residence,Male Slaves are
not permitted to speak to each other in accordance with Rule 4. There are
video and audio surveillance devices located throughout Mistress’s home,
which are in use 24/7. If Male Slave is discovered to disobey this rule, an
additional 50 lashes will be served as punishment to all parties involved.
[26] Male Slave understands that it will be subjected to any and all sorts of
varying things, including, but not limited to, urination, pain, and
bondage.
[27] Male Slave will immediately apologize, and request forgiveness of any
wrongdoing.
[28] When Male Slave is answering a question or commandment, Male Slave must reply in
as few words as possible. Male Slave will always end each sentence with either
“Sir”, “Mistress”, or “Mistress [insert name here]“.
[29] Full-Time Male Slave will be fed twice each day, 7 am and 7 p.m. Meals
will consist of whatever Mistress deems appropriate. Session Male Slave will be
fed if an appointment lasts longer than 9 hours. Male Slave can refuse any
meal; however, each refusal of a meal is punishable by 25 additional
lashings. Full-Time Male Slave will also receive a 36-hour fast of any food or
drink.
[30] In the case of sickness or death of anyone in Full-Time Male Slave’s
immediate family, Male Slave will be notified immediately and granted a
temporary Bereavement Leave of all household duties and allowed to join its
family, with Mistress’s supervision. Rules 3 – 5, 7, 10 – 14, 19 – 24, 27 -
29, 31 & 34 will still apply. In addition, no effort will be made by Male Slave
to cover up or hide its lowly status from others. In addition, Male Slave’s
safeword will not apply to this situation, nor will it get Male Slave out of any
service during Bereavement Leave. Male Slave must always remain within sight of
Mistress. There are no exceptions. Any and all punishments earned during
Bereavement Leave will be given immediately upon return to full service.
All “off-duty” time accumulated by Male Slave during its reprieve will be added
on at the end of its service, and tripled.
[31] No refunds for Male Slave servitude will be given, for any reason,
whatsoever.
[32] Full-Time Male Slave agrees to a minimum mandatory 90-day contract, as a
trial period for both itself and Mistress. If during that time Male Slave does
not wish to continue service, or if Male Slave’s service is deemed
unsatisfactory by Mistress within that time, servitude will end on the 91st
day. If Mistress agrees to keep Male Slave longer, a new contract of no less than
six months will be signed and agreed upon. Each subsequent contract
renewal will carry an additional three months. For example, if Male Slave
passes the 90-day trial period, and the following six-month contract, the
following contract would be for nine months, the next would be twelve
months, and so on.
[33] Upon agreement of becoming Male Slave, it must commit to memory a safeword
of Mistress’s choosing. The safeword will release Male Slave from any situation
where it feels it is being used too roughly. If the safeword is used,
Male Slave understands that it will be punished for attempting to defy its
Mistress, and agrees to submit to a future punishment of Mistress’s choosing.
[34] Male Slave must endure any and all punishments without speaking, swearing
or other vocal statements. Sobbing, wailing, shrieking, etc., are
permitted, as long as no words are uttered. If any words are uttered
during punishment, an additional five lashes will be administered, per
offense.
[35] Male Slave is required to memorize each of these 35 Rules, verbatim, and
must be able to correctly state any and all Rules at any given time, under
any and all circumstances. Ten punishment lashes will be given for each
word missed or incorrectly added by Male Slave during recitation.
( * NB: I know some of you think this is the way to live in real life. But the words above are for fantasies. None of you could actually handle living like this.)
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Dept. of Malesub Fantasies
A masochistic man left a comment on one of my sites. He recounted being beaten by a -forgive the word – fat woman in her fifties. Her own relish in her sadism was all he needed for his own happiness.
He contrasts sharply with the men who state that they are looking for a beautiful dominant woman. Presumably a female whose glossy symmetrical exterior would win her place in the pages of Maxim or Playboy.
I’m not going to chastise these guys for their narrowly channeled lust. I suspect the confinement of their desires leaves them more chaste than wearing a CB-6000 might. Perhaps their sexual orientation leaves them unable to have any erotic experience – even being whipped – with anyone other than a hot woman.
If you are a man who has decided that you’ll submit (cough) only to beautiful, conventionally sexy dominant women I hope you’ve looked in the mirror.
Do you look like Hugh Jackman, Zac Efron or any other man celebrated for his sex appeal? Would the editors of Freshmen offer you a photo session?
If not: why do you expect a gorgeous woman to find you her object of desire? Hmmm?
If pinup level looks is a fixed requirement you’ll need to consider hiring a professional dominatrix. Caveat: most of the ProDommes you see photos of are models. They don’t do domination or sex work at all. So you may have to travel a considerable distance to find a professional dominatrix meeting your standards. And she’ll expect you to pay a very hefty fee.
Good luck!
Originally posted 2012-10-06 06:35:04.
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Gynosupremacist Marriage and Liturgical Urination
By yourstouse
Years ago, when she who is now my owner, and who’s property it is my privilege to be was just my girlfriend,I manipulated her into sitting on my face. Which without hesitation, I am pleased to say she was happy to do.
After a while she got up, and said, go get me a drink, but don’t get any for yourself. When I returned and entered the lounge, she was sitting in one of the arm chairs. I gave her the drink, and sat down on the carpet in front of Her.
What are you doing down there ? She asked, showing you respect I said, I want to be your slave.
Oh don’t worry about that She said, you already are, and have been ever since you asked me to sit on your face. As soon as you said that, I knew that you were mine, you were in my power, and I could do just what I liked with you.
Now slave get down on your hands and knees, crawl forward, and kiss my feet. I of course did as I was told, and continued to do so until she said, that’s enough.
Now follow me she said and led me upstairs to her bedroom. There she sat on the end of her bed, removed her panties, lifted up the front of her skirt, lay back on the bed with her legs wide apart, and said “Get down on your knees between my feet, and lick my pussy, and don’t stop until I tell you to”.
What a wonderful sight, I was down there like a shot, kissing, sucking, and licking to my hearts content, and at the same time giving her the pleasure she so richly deserved.
After she had finished, I was commanded to lick her clean, then she got back again onto the bed, and instructed me to carry on as before. her body arched, she moaned, and just before her orgasm, she opened her legs wider, put both her hands behind my head pulled me in, and closed her legs so tightly, I thought my skull would crack.
I had never been happier, I just could not believe my good fortune, so much had happened in so short a time.
I had often wondered what it would be like to have my face sat upon by a woman, and now I knew, I really enjoyed it, and what’s more she enjoyed sitting on my face, so much so in fact that she was keen to do it again.
My mouth had been so close to her pussy, that I found myself wondering what it would be like to drink female urine, but knew that I would never have the nerve to ask.
As it happened, there was no need to, for she said, that was great, I really enjoyed it, I would just love to give you your reward, would you like that ?
Oh! yes please I replied, OK, she said, now open your mouth wide, and keep it open, whereupon she sat herself down once more on my mouth But this time with her pee hole directly over it’s centre, and proceeded to empty her by then full bladder directly into my eager waiting mouth.
There no words to describe just how much I enjoyed drinking her lovely tangy tasting golden nectar. To have inside me, what had formerly been inside her was joy unspeakable.
After she had finished, I licked her spotlessly clean. She then got up, and said. Now do you see why I told you to get me a drink, and to have none for yourself ?
Male Slave in a Gynosupremacist Marriage
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By Jimmyredass
I have only persuaded my wife to spank my ass once, and by persuaded I should say I presented her with a fait-accompli.
Having gone to bed early one night and waited for my wife to come up – my mind wandered to lustful thoughts and found my self with a raging hardon but no wife yet. I had fantasized about asking my wife to spank my ass but had chickened out but unknown to her I had fashioned a thick wooden paddle for her to use on my ass.
Unable to wait any longer I grabbed the paddle and snuck naked down the stairs to our family room where I stood in front of her (she was working on her laptop PC). My my she said as she spied my erect penis and my blushing face – what have we here she said.
I blurted out about my fantasy of wanting her to spank me and how it turned me on.
I can see that she said – and asked what I had in my hand – I’d forgotten about the paddle – its a paddle for you to use when you spank me I said. So your serious about this she said. Yes I said and so she cupped my balls in her hand and stroked my penis and said OK but no whining or complaining to me about this.
OK I said, so she said so how shall we do this and I said put me across your knee. So she di, she pulled on my wrist and I folded over her lap. She spread her legs a little and directed my erection between her thighs then closed her legs to grip me tight.
Give me the paddle she said,and I hesitated slightly but said as I handed it over, I think you need to warm up my ass with a hand spanking first.
Oh I do she said as she landed a hard smack with the paddle on my right buttock followed quickly by one on my left. Ouch Ouch I cried out in surprise and in pain. And she rubbed my ass where the paddle had landed and said wow its gone pink where It hit it, so maybe your right and hand spanking first.
I sighed a little and relaxed at that, but not for long as she lit into my ass with a series of hard fast smacks with her hand covering all of my ass cheeks – I was wondering what I found exciting as the pain built very quickly and I was soon trying to get her to slow down to stop. I blurted out about the use of a safe word and it took me some time to get her to believe me. She finally let up with the hand spanks and started into rubbing and massaging my very sore ass.
I was gasping for air at this point not near crying but certainly not comfortable.
Are you sure this is what you want she said as Im sure she could feel my erection soften a little. Yes yes please but just slow it down a little so I can adjust to the pain.
OK she said and then laid into me with the paddle – well hello! – I have never felt anything so painful – I was twisting and turning to try to get away from the blows, and pleading for her to slow up or stop but she kept on going asking me did I want to use my safe word?
I didn’t want to call a halt to the evening so I foolishly said No, so she lit me up again, a bit harder and faster than before – it wasn’t long before I was howling for her to stop and bawling out the safeword.
She put down the paddle and commented on how red and sore looking my ass was. She started stroking it softly and pressing her hand into the ass cheeks to see its impression in the blistering red colour of my ass.
OK she said after a while – Get up and stand in front of me.
I did and she looked at me a said – Honey I can see this turned you on a lot but this isn’t really my thing. and she stroked my penis and softly kissed it. slowly wanking on my cock she said – look if this is what you want – we need to find someone who can do this for you OK?
I said yes and I was sorry for asking her – she said no don’t be sorry we need to communicate these things, and she looked up at me while slippy my now fully erect penis into her mouth. She expertly sucked and stroked on me and brought me to climax and then said – right off to bed – and take that paddle with you.
It was a fantastic night – but we haven’t repeated it since – and we haven’t found anyone to put me over their knee and repeat the treatment.
Always open to ideas on how to find that someone with a wish paddle an errant behind.
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Lately I have opened myself up to Buddhism and I’m exploring quite a few concepts. Two of which are patience and control.
I wish to have a satisfying, harmonious and healthy relationship within 24/7 domination and submission and I have been on a quest to find ways to develop this.
Without getting into a debate over religion, I would like to offer what I have learned, so that others might find some insight into their issues on patience and control within a D/s 24/7 relationship( with the issues focusing on the non-sexual aspects).
On Patience
I have often found a lack of patience from both myself and my submissive’s behaviour. It can show up in the form of wanting to pursue BDSM right away or wanting the other to bend to my will, etc.. Lack of patience has always created an issue. Quite simply if one lives in the “here and now”, we will not cause ourselves anxiety, fear and with it – a lack of patience when we are “futurizing” things. Therefore if the focus is on the present, lack of patience is less likely to bite us because, we are only in that moment and not in wait.
On Control
I have often spoke of self control exhibitied by the submissive and/or dominant and how having self control makes the sub and dom a better partner. Now, I’m of the belief that self control is just holding back from emotions and thoughts and is only a mask of what we really feel. Better it to feel inner peace and harmony so that no control is required in the first place. Inner peace and clarity will eventually bring what one wants and seeks which doesn’t require “control”. I believe there are ways of getting one’s needs met without having to “control” the other but while still maintaining a 24/7 d/s relationship. (Lady Sun thinks to herself she loves 24/7 D/s so much and it can be a tricky dance which takes much practice, skill, dedication, knowledge and love, to accomplish effectively and beautifully.)
I would also like to add that pseudo control and lack of patience might be quite helpful, enticing and joyful within a setting where it works.
(Old Usenet Post)
24/7 D/s: Patience & Control
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By Jess
No one can deny the male is a derivative of the female template (why do men have nipples?). That is scientific fact. No one can deny Women are more genetically complex than men (XX vs. Xy chromosomes). No one can deny men are more prone to a number of diseases, and Women usually outlive men by an average of seven years. No one can deny Women bear the most vital sexual organs. No one can deny the main hub for emotion and memory formation is usually larger in a woman’s brain. No one can deny Women have a higher pain tolerance than men. No one can deny Women generally have better sensory ability than men. No one can deny that on average, Women are healthier than men of their own age.
All the above stands aside of certain social truths that are evident enough if one takes the time. I invite people to read The Myth of Male Power, by Warren Farrell, a former NOW board member, to start.
Science is about discovering truths about our universe which can be tested and verified conclusively. Thus far science has revealed that women are genetically more complicated—and complete—than men, as well as less prone to genetic diseases, have more advanced nervous systems, and so on. This is what the objective facts reveal. That is why good science is so wonderful; it is objective.
While science may be full of objective facts, the scientists themselves are not at all passionless robots in their observations or feelings. I will let a few individuals speak for themselves. Take from these snippets what you may.
“Males are wilting away…. From sperm count to social status, and from fertilization to death, as civilization advances those who bear Y chromosomes are in relative decline.”
“”Oh no!” I can hear you say, “Not superior, but equal, partners, complementary, different, but not superior. What an idea!” Men will mostly smile, while women, alarmed, will rush to the defense of men as women always have and always will.”
David Bainbridge Reproductive Biologist Author, The Natural Superiority of Women
“Outside the segments devoted to the small tasks of manhood, most of the y is filled with decay. It has degenerated because it abjures the messy business of sex.”
“Males are, in many ways, parasites upon their partners. Their interests are to persuade the other party to invest in reproduction, while doing as little as they can themselves.”
Steve Jones Geneticist, Author
Girls, not boys, come out wired for mutual gazing. Girls do not experience the testosterone surge in utero that shrinks the centers for communication, observation and processing of emotion, so their potential to develop skills in these areas are better than boys’.”
Louann Brizendine Neuropsychiatrist, Author
“Originally the Y-chromosome was a perfectly respectable chromosome, but its fate was sealed when it took on the mantle of creating males.”
“Are the male trademarks of greed, aggression and promiscuity genetically based?”
Bryan Sykes Geneticist, Author
The Female has two XX chromosomes, the male has one X chromosome and a smaller Y. The XX more than 1,000 genes and 160 million base pairs of DNA. The Y chromosome – 78 genes, 23 million DNA subunits. Over an extensive period of time, the Y chromosome has been slowly degrading.
Originally posted 2009-02-06 00:30:49.
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From a report that women in Japan are starting to place chastity devices on their husbands and boyfriends. Japanese women don’t seem to trust Japanese males at all.
“The users seem to be single women who are extremely possessive,” says “pink” industry journalist Yukio Murakami, explaining why lower decker pecker checkers have come into vogue all of a sudden.
“They can’t stop fretting that their lovers will cheat on them. So they make them wear chastity belts made with metal or plastic tubes that slip over the entire length of the glans, and can be fixed with a lock and key. It’s got an aperture at the tip to permit urination.”
This is the saddest – and I think unfair and unlikely – reason for a woman wanting to place her husband in a chastity device I’ve ever encountered:
“Many of them feel insecure because they’re unattractive and worry their boyfriends will be stolen by other women, so they buy the belts via mail order, and then insist their lovers wear them,” he adds. Hmmm, naruhodo. First mail order, then ordered males.
Um, if she orders the device in advance there’s a good chance it won’t fit.
Work odd hours? Don’t want your boyfriend or husband to wank while you are away?
Nurses who work night shifts also favor such clampdowns on their boyfriends recreational activities.
Rouge romantics wrapping on restraints below the beltway
Originally posted 2012-10-08 17:08:15.
Japanese Women Force Men to Wear Chastity Devices
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Male Slave Training & Retraining Techniques
By Slave Owner
This is intended as intense mental conditioning for healthy males, who have difficulty “letting go.” Although it can be performed once, ideally it should be repeated (with rest intervals in isolation) over a period of time stretching for weeks to months. A weekend would be an intense experience, while a month would entail serious “reprogramming” which is probably beyond general interests.
Aim:
To create a mental state suitable for training/relearning. Specifically to lower serotonin levels slightly and induce a waking REM sleep-like state which facilitates ‘writing’ to long term memory.
How?
3 essential elements:
Although the exact methods vary from subject to subject, the basic idea is to cause a moderate drop in blood sugar level by placing him on a restricted diet for 2-3 days. Keep this in the 300-600 calorie range for no more than a 3 days at a time. Do not restrict liquids. During this time restrict sleep as much as possible. (It helps to have 2 trainers for shifts). Ideally you must keep him awake 2 nights before you can begin in earnest. Bright lights, standing, noise etc. can help.
The element of shock is introduced at this point. This can be relatively quick, or more drawn out. The idea being to create a sensory overload.
During this period of sensory overload it is possible to “write” very directly onto the long term memory.
Possible sensory shocks include:
Although this use of sensory overload works well, the mind is quite amenable at this point to learning and training of all types. This can go on for one hour or one day. Then the trainee should be allowed to eat and sleep normally. For the single experience it is now over. For the longer term, this period of rest should take place in isolation or relative isolation.
Closeting is the most extreme, but simply restricting access to the outside world works quite well. This can be repeated, but care should be taken with trainees. Each additional session will probably be easier to induce than the first.
A longer term moderately restricted diet with moderate sleep deprivation can also be combined with daily training. This is probably easier on the health than too many intense sessions.
This basic method can fit into a variety of training methods, help push limits, and offer an intense experience to the sub. It is regularly used in modified forms by religious cults and has been used by the US military.
The actual origins of the technique stretch back to our friend Pavlov in St. Petersburg. We all know that Pavlov trained his dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell, right? Well, it is much less known that shortly thereafter, St. Petersburg had a terrible flood which nearly drowned the dogs. Luckily, they survived, but Pavlov found that the dogs were no longer “trained.” The intensity of the experience had rewritten their long term memories. Later work on the subject of learning revealed that our short term memory is encoded into long term memory during REM sleep (when the serotonin drops in our brains). This state of REM sleep provides the ideal time for training/programing.
The process, in truth, eliminates the ability of the trainee to think rationally, give consent etc. so this must be all agreed upon before training begins.
The particular advantage of isolation between/during this training is the loss of a rational frame of reference which conflicts with the meaning of the training. In isolation, this process of rewriting can take place more “cleanly.”
I am very interested in discussing training methods with other intelligent dominants, or particularly intelligent and intense subs. Provided there is consent, and it does not involve horrible injury, I am very difficult to shock, so feel free to be completely open.
Methods/information above are NOT fantasy, but are rather based on real research, and some personal experience.
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From a very old conversation of bottom’s profound satisfaction in the experience of being punished.
For me, as a male submissive, obedience and punishment are one of the main things they make play satisfying.
For me, in order to be satisfying obedience has to involve doing things that I dislike at least a little bit or find difficult. If I’m simply being asked to do things that I have no problem with, then I have no sense of the dominant having power over me.
It’s not hard for a dominant to learn to dance to this rhythm. If she asks me to wash the dishes, then I will certainly do it, but for me this is a case of safeword “beige,” because I really don’t mind washing dishes. If she wants to make it a little more exciting (not that everything in a scene has to be exciting), then she can say, “Wash the dishes and when you’re done, come and kiss my feet.” No big deal, but it gives me a little bit of satisfaction.
For me, for obedience play to be satisfying, there must be punishment, or at the least a very credible threat of punishment.
I believe that punishment needs to be in some way satisfying for both partners.
For me, for one thing, this means that it has to be real, not pretend. It has to be something that I really do dislike and will make an effort to avoid. The ideal is for punishment to be something I’m afraid of. In any case, the most important thing is that it needs to be effective. If my attitude is something like, “Oh, I know I’ll get whipped for doing this, but I don’t mind,” then the integrity of the play is lost and there’s no satisfaction in it for me.
It’s very exciting to me to show up at a femdomme’s place and know that I am going to be required to do something that will be very difficult for me and that some specific very dreadful thing may be done to me if I don’t manage to do it satisfactorily.
Even a “smart-assed sadist” scene, where the dominant has puposely set things up so that I will inevitably screw up no matter how hard I try, will to some extent fall flat unless the punishment is to some extent genuinely unpleasant. That’s what makes it fun, after all, the dominant knowing that she gets to do things to the submissive which he really doesn’t like. That’s what gives her the satisfaction of being more than merely the life-support system for a whip. And it’s also what gives me satisfaction.
Something like whipping or caning can actually be okay for punishment, but if so it needs to really hurt. As I said before, it should be an *outrage*, so that my inner thought is something like, “Goddamn it! You really hurt me!” It doesn’t need to be really heavy duty though or draw blood.
One of the things about DS that is most exciting for me, in fact, is a woman who is very good at figuring out the things that I hate and then doing them to me.
And yes, for me, punishment should sometimes be exciting. Exciting and also unpleasant and effective. I don’t find these at all contradictory.
Corner time won’t do it for me, because for me that’s just boring and it’s not something I will make a big effort to avoid. Holding a dime pressed against the wall with my nose makes it a little more satisfying, because there’s an element of humiliation in that. Humiliation is, for me, a very good thing to include in punishment. Ideally, to be punished is to be shamed. There is a shame in the fact that I have been bad or forgetful or whatever and am being punished for it.
Writing lines is something I don’t think I’ve ever actually done. It might work, depending on the content (it should be something stupid and humiliating) and the attitude of the dominant. If she just takes a quick look at it, then I think this would not really be good, because it would be too easily for me to think, “Okay, so I have to write ‘I will be a good slave’ a hundred times. Boring, but I can do that easily enough.” But if she examines it closely and punishes me for all the places where I left out a word or misspelled it or my writing was illegible, then that might work.
When I played for a while with a woman who really liked water sports, I eventually learned to be willing to drink piss. But I still find it quite distasteful, and for me there’s something very oppressive about having a water bottle filled with piss sitting nearby and knowing that any time I screw up a little I’m going to have to drink a swallow of it.
Oppressive is good. That’s the feeling of compulsion that really makes a scene work for me. The feeling that I have no choice but to do what I’m required to and to do it perfectly.
Licking a woman’s boots is no big deal, as far as I’m concerned. Not difficult and not exciting. But I was once playing with a femdomme when there was a male top present, and after ordering me to kiss her shoe, which I had no problem with, she ordered me to kiss his boots. (This was a woman who really knew what all my buttons were!) And I was very very happy when he objected because he had just very thoroughly shined the boots, so she had me do something else instead. So I think that requiring me to give a male’s boots a thorough going-over with my tongue would be a punishment that I would do everything possible to avoid.
One can make the punishment fit the crime. If a sub forgets to put the toilet seat down, for instance, then have him hold his head over the bowl and shove it in, holding it down in there for maybe half a minute. He’s not likely to forget again. (Obviously this is not a good thing to do if you use one of those cleaners that colors the water blue.)
For me, anyway, a really good scolding can be a very effective punishment, if done well. The sort of scolding that belittles the person. A thorough “dressing down.” The sort of scolding that an army drill sargeant would give, although it doesn’t need to be done in a loud tone of voice.
Obviously TammyJo and I are attracted by very different kinds of play. Now let me comment more specifically on a few things where from my perspective she has missed the point.
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A dominant can inflict on me even the most drastic sort of punishment just because she wants to, and it’s very exciting to me to know that she can do such a dreadful thing to me merely for her amusement. Of I might even pay her to do that, because I want to know what the experience is like. But that’s different from punishment.
The prodomme who ordered me to brush my teeth with soap didn’t do it as a punishment. She had told me that she had often had fantasies about washing a slave’s mouth out with soap, but had never felt that it would be okay to do. And I told her that I would be okay with her doing that to me. So the next time I saw her, she did, and I was glad to have the chance to find out what it was like, but it was quite dreadful and experiencing it once was quite enough.
If I’d gone on seeing her, and if she started doing that frequently, I would not have liked it. I would have dreaded it. Every time I went to see her, I would have been thinking, “Oh, God, I hope she’s not going to put soap in my mouth again,” because, as I’ve mentioned, it takes about half a day to get rid of that damned soap taste. But it would have also been exciting to know that she had the power to do something to me which I hated that much. But in order for something like this to work, I have to know that the dominant is really getting off on doing it. If I start getting the feeling that for her it’s routine, just a part of her shtick, then I start thinking, “Why should I let someone do something like this to me?”
But that’s different from punishment. The excitement, for me, in punishment lies in being punished, not in the physical sensation or psychological distastefulness. It’s the excitement of knowing that I have no choice but to obey.
If this same dominant had ever punished me for speaking out of turn by soaping my mouth, that would have been 100% effective. From that time forward, I would never have spoken a word during one of our scenes unless given permission, now matter how much I wanted to say something. And knowing that I was so completely controlled in this way would have been very satisfying to me.
But if I did, some time in the future, speak even one word out of turn and she had let that pass, then some of the energy would have been lost from our relationship.
I was once in a relationship with a woman where we did a certain amount of DS. She whipped me from time to time, very painfully but not nearly often enough (less than once a month), and sometimes I complained about the fact that she didn’t whip me more often.
One evening she gave me a thorough whipping, and afterwards asked, “Do you know why I whipped you tonight?” I had no idea, and she said, “The other day you were sitting in your chair reading a magazine and I was talking to you and you just kept reading your magazine. I don’t like that. When I’m talking to you I want your one hundred per cent attention.”
Now even though this punishment was no different from many other times I had been whipped, and even though I actually would have preferred her to whip me more often, it was still totally effective. From that time on, any time I was reading and she started talking to me, I put the magazine face down on the floor.
Now to tell the truth, to a large extent I was creating my own private fantasy situation here. I didn’t need to actually put the magazine down, I knew her well enough to know that she would have been completely satisfied if I’d simply looked up from it and maintained eye contact with her. (But I also know she did enjoy the satisfaction of knowing that I was so afraid of punishment that I was actually doing more than she would have required.) And in fact, if I’d chosen to ignore the punishment and not changed my behavior at all, I’m sure that she would have just essentially shrugged her shoulders. For her, I believe, the real satisfaction was in being able to punish me that one time, when she was in the mood. The fact that she actually changed my behavior was for her, I believe, a bonus.
But she got more than she would have really insisted on, because what we were doing was satisfying to both of us. I was able to make myself believe in what I actually knew was only a fantasy, namely that anytime I didn’t immediately lay the magazine down on the floor I would be whipped. And that gave both of us what we wanted.
Rest of discussion with comments by many.
Originally posted 2012-10-12 07:12:14.
Submissive Men Who Crave Punishment
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By JudyK
It amazes me why so many sub men seem to think that their Mistress should only have him as her property. Do they not understand that once they are collared, they are her property. One would not expect her to own more than one chair, therefore they should not expect her to own more than one male. How many males should a woman own? The answer is simple, as many as she wants, or feels she needs. I own four, all live in my home. One is my sissy housemaid, the others have high paying jobs, their salaries going into my bank account. This allows me to live in a lifestyle that as a superior woman I am entitled to. I am not legally married to any of them. All are locked in chastity. Sexual pleasure is for me only, not for them. They service me orally. They know that their only reason to exist is to serve me in any way I choose.
How Many Males Does A Woman Need
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One month from today: heart-shaped balloons, deadly boxes of chocolate, pink bows and expensive restaurant meals.
I’ve never really had much to do with St. Valentine’s Day. Indeed I suspect it a plot created by collusion between the greeting card publishers and candy makers.
I dimly recall reading people talking of giving the holiday a F/m spin but can’t remember what.
Do you in any way make Valentine’s Day a part of your female led relationship?
Originally posted 2009-01-14 14:00:58.
Valentine’s Day
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